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Don’t send me a thank you card.

Don’t send me a thank you card.

Don’t send me a thank you card.
I know this one is gonna trigger my good manners people. Its not that we do not know about or practice good manners in my family but this one gets a little sticky for me and if you take the time to read to the end you may get why.

If I GIVE a gift of any kind to someone its because I want them to have it with no strings attached. Its not to get a thankyou card.
After my dad passed, I was exhausted. My brain was grieving and reliving three years of trauma watching him slowly decline and all the shit that went with it. On top of several other deaths I have walked through this year. Trying to do thankyou cards was honestly excruciating to try to keep everything straight. Some people received one some people got three some didn’t get any. I do not ever want someone to think about a thank you card after a death. If I send flowers or money for a memorial or to help the family or drop off food that’s all I want to do. Save a tree don’t send one to me. I will take a hug next time I see you if your up for it 😊 but that’s not necessary either.

All these teens around me are graduating and I am so happy for Venmo. I can send them some play cash and be on my way with the day smiling knowing how good they probably feel to have school behind them. Ok that is how I felt at graduation, but I digress. GO HAVE FUN. Go find an apartment. Go put the money in savings for a later date. START your life. I don’t need the obligatory thank you card that I know dang well you don’t want to write anyway. I don’t like that obligation energy where appreciation is meant to be. Send a text in your graduation gown. I am into that! Post photos on social media so I can see your happiness and relief that you did it. Enjoy that moment. I will catch up with you and if you want to throw a thank you out great if you don’t remember I’m gonna come in for a hug anyways so I get what I want 😊

If your sick and we send care packages or things to help you along. You better not spend one ounce of energy on sending me a thank you card when you should be putting that energy into HEALING YOURSELF. Not one. Let us shower you with support because its probably one of the things you’re learning to do is RECEIVE support and help so let us do that. The card can stay in its pretty little package. Better yet save your cash and that tree and don’t send one to me.

Now all that said…..sometimes we really want to express our gratitude. I LOVE that. LOVE IT. Obligation tends to follow thank you cards for some people. Gratitude tends to follow a heart felt feeling of joy that has filled you up in some way that you often can’t find words for it. A simply thank you doesn’t do the trick. A handwritten note does. I love those kinds of thank you notes if they are written simply out of inspiration from your spirit. I have written notes, send flowers, bought gifts, all sorts of different things when expressing my gratitude. I don’t want someone to not spread gratitude around the world. I just don’t want obligation thank you notes. Can you feel the difference? Follow the energy of each action.

Obligation yuck. Appreciation yes! I have had people call me wondering where the thank you card is. I usually just offer the gift back. If that is why you are sending me something? No thank you.

If you love to send them and its fun for you SEND THEM. I used to love sending cards to people. These days I just reach out personally instead, but I do appreciate a good card at times. Thank you cards are deep patterns of obligation and guilt sometimes and I get the tradition of them as well. If you are a thank you card person I have no beefs with you. Just keep the guilt and obligation energy out of it.

Appreciation and gratitude grow when it comes from the real place of gratitude. It took me a long time to really feel what that felt like and what that energy was about. It used to be tied in with guilt and obligation and I had to learn to untie those energies from each other. They don’t fit well together my friends.

Today think about something or someone you TRULY feel gratitude for. See what your spirit says to let them know about that appreciation. You may find a fun little tradition you can start yourself when its time to share some gratitude.

Freedom Gathering

A mentoring group for healing and clearing.

We will start on September 8th and gather for 6 weeks.

Here is the fun part—you have two choices! We all love choices right 😉

One class will be over the phone from noon till 2.

One class will be in the evening from 6:30 till 8:30 in person! (In Fargo)

Each class will be two hours in length and will be a limited amount of people.

Investment will be $180 for each group.

$50 non-refundable deposit to hold your space.

Register here:

Click here to put down deposit.

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So Many Ways To Love

Last night was a full moon. The first after my 41st birthday and I ended up going to a ceremony with two of my friends who I have not seen in soooo long.
We ended up in the soccer fields to watch the sun set and the moon come out. A super moon. We all took turns to let the moon know what it was we wanted to let go of and more importantly what we wanted to bring in for ourselves.
The message we all heard was to be LOVE. Love everyone.
My question was how do we love those we don’t like very much? ( A valid question and one I see a lot of “Spiritual” people wrestle with cause you know if your spiritual you love everyone right J )
The answer was so beautiful.
Love people the way you need to love them.
Love people the way you need to love them.
Kind of opened a new perspective for me.
We have lots of ways to love.  We all paused and considered the answer to a very big question.
Here is what came to my in my sleepless night last night. Maybe it will help you on how to love those that are a bit challenging in your life.
You can love quietly.
You can love loudly.
You can love at a distance.
You can love in a healthy way.
You can love with boundaries.
You can love with intimacy.
You can love with family.
You can love with friends.
You can love with ideas.
You can love with Intention.
You can love with beauty.
You can love with fear.
You can love with Bravery.
You can love inwardly.
You can love in the dark.
You can love in the light
You can love with laughter
You can love with tears
You can love seeing the gifts
You can love in the challenge
You can love with conditions
But you can also love
UNCONDITIONALY
Unconditional love is something I feel we come from in our most pure of spiritual selves. I feel that we are here to clear out the layers of shadows to bring us back to that space within us.
Each layer we clear brings us closer to that love inside of us that is busting to get out.
So each morning we get to pick.
How do you want to LOVE today?

How Far Have You Come

How Far Have You Come

It’s November already! Isn’t it amazing how much can change in the space of a year?

Just like Everyone Else Ever, I’m not always great at taking the time to slooowwwww down and appreciate my life and how far I’ve come. Left to my own devices, I will gogogo and miss those sweet moments in life because I’m busy scheduling meetings or grocery shopping.

The last couple of weeks I’ve been a lot more mindful of the moments in my life I want to enjoy –

 taking a few deep breaths,  shutting off my phone or taking a walk outside to check out those gorgeous leaves. I force myself to just enjoy it a little bit more, work a little less, and pay attention to my kids and what’s happening at school. 

 Really, I had to laugh when conference notes came home and the teacher asked me to bring Foster to conferences with me.  

My boys


My immediate thought process went something like this:

  is he getting in trouble and I haven’t been paying attention and I’m missing what’s happening and I should be a better mom and throw the x-box away and make better suppers and feed them more organic food …

and on and on and on.
But I then I took a deep breath and just asked Foster “How’s school going?”

 “Fine.”

That was his answer! I changed my question to “How is school feeling?”

“Good, I haven’t gotten in trouble in a long time.”  I laughed and reminded him that I hadn’t asked if he was getting in trouble. Was there anything we needed to chat with your teacher about?

“No, I like her and school is going good.”

Now, with my calm Mom head back on, I was able to feel into his answer. He was calm, he wasn’t nervous or chewing on his shirt (A tell tale sign he’s hiding something).

  He felt quite good about all of it. I know his teacher will have some suggestions. I know he can be obnoxious in class (he gets that from Dad, I’m sure of it!)  and that things may look different to his teacher than to Foster.    But in the end, I know how my son feels.

 I know his “tells” and I know when he is feeling off or scared or nervous because the last few years I have learned to tune into those emotions. 

  If I slow down and remember who I am – a mom who can feel when something is off –  then I can put myself back into a place of being centered and relaxed.  

I can breath. I can enjoy. I can let go of the guilt. I can just BE. 


Now that is how far I’ve come.

Today, this week, this month, take a moment to see how far you have come.

 Think about how you used to react and how you react now.  Celebrate your growth – not the things you still need to work on. Acknowledge the wins!

Need some help getting there? 

 

I have a few new things on the horizon that you may want to take advantage of. A bit of a new style + flair for my ever-changing ways.  But I promise it will still be filled with as much fun as we can come up with!  

4 Steps to Creating Intentions That Work. Like Today

4 Steps to Creating Intentions That Work. Like Today

4 Steps To Creating Intentions That Work.  Like, Today.

 

You know what you want:
A clear + bright + supportive home.
A focused + relaxed mind.

You’re just not sure how to get it.

Today I’m going to share my favorite way to make my home as cheering + clear as I want it to be.  Let’s talk intention setting.

1. Spend some time on how you want to feel
Think about your home, job, love life, children, anything. Write down these feelings and create an order to the universe, just like at a restaurant.  “I’d like a clean, fun-filled, calm house with a side of afternoon sun, please.”

 

2. Use feeling words
Get in your heart + dig deep.  A few words that might be applicable to your home:
safe, comfy, loving, warm, cozy, creative, full of family, etc.  Whatever works for you!

3. Write the story

Write the story of your perfect home as if its already happened.  Intentions are used to get you into the energy that you are seeking – they’re not just a common comment. Intentions actually create the emotion in your body as you set them. You create the energy within your heart to spread to your outside world.
Here’s an example of a good, energy-drawing story.

When I walk in the door I feel my home is giving me a nice warm hug hello. The energy inside my home melts all my stress away as I walk through the door – almost as if I have a magic wand waving over my head to release anything negative that may have followed me home.

My home creates a warm cuddly cozy feeling as soon as I sit down and take a big deep breath. I feel fully supported and confident when I am in my home. This is my safe haven where everybody knows my name and I can just BE. I can slow down, stop thinking, relax, enjoy, laugh and create a space for my boys and husband that nurtures us as well as leaves room for plenty of fun and creativity. My home is my light and love and re-fills my body every day with new life and love.

4.  Make copies of your story
Once you have a story that you can feel down to your toes, write it down again, and make copies. Carry them in your purse, wallet, car, under the couch where you sit a lot. Hang them in the mirror in the bathroom. Put them anywhere that reminds you of the energy you want to create.

For me, a physical symbol is my best reminder. A while ago,  I wanted to new carpet. I found the carpet I wanted and laid a piece of it outside my bathroom door. Each day I said, “I am soo going to love that new carpet when I get it. I can’t wait to create the income to install the new carpet. My house is going to be sooo happy to have a facelift!”  Every day I could feel what it would be like to have that new carpet. Within the year I had created the finances to order new carpet!

Dream it, feel it, write.it.down.
Intentions are best when written down, keeping it in your head just keeps it in your head.

original image (without text on top) by Emma Bradshaw, for sale here

The Answers within…..

The Answers within…..

The answers within- this is a card from my new deck of oracle cards! Soon to be available on my website but you can email me directly to get your own set right now .

The Answers within- each time we come up against a roadblock or a place where we just dont know where to go or what to do next we tend to start looking outside of ourselves for the answers. We as for ideas, opinions, direction, insight. Any thing we can do to make ourselves feel like we are searching for the answer. What I have learned and observed with so many clients is the answers typically are within. They may need some guidance about getting those answers out or maybe a little help with being honest about what the real answer is but almost always the answer is within. So today before you grab the phone or head to facebook or seek out the answer from someone else. Sit quite, take a breathe, empty your mind, even grab a pen or pencil and some paper and just write out what needs to be said from within. Find the answers within your own self. See what magic comes from this practice.