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Slap yourself silly

Slap yourself silly

By now you may have heard that Will Smith slapped Chris Rock after a joke was made about his wife and her lack of hair. She suffers from alopecia, and it obviously is a painful topic to the couple.

I know social media would blow up and all the memes and all the jokes and all the stuff. I knew I also wanted to write about it, but I have a different perspective for you to try on.

When I asked spirit what to write, it showed me a session I had long ago with a client. She suffered with painful and negative self-talk. The voice in her head was so abusive and mean and the more we dug in the more I could see what it was doing to her mental health and not supporting the work she was doing to create happiness in her life.

I was given a vision of her and a mirror of herself. When she would say something mean like you’re not good enough or what is wrong with you I saw that mirror self kick her in the stomach. Punch her in the face. Literally beat the shit out of herself. It made us both cringe at the picture we were being shown. The bruises she left on herself energetically. The wounds she created by her own will. It was a shocking picture for us both.

Will Smith just gave us a real life look at what that looks like. Do you make jokes about your shortcomings before someone else does? Do you smile on the outside meanwhile beating yourself up inside your own mind? Do you slap yourself silly with small mistakes? Do you leave bruises and wounds each day in your own energy field?

Maybe he was showing the world what we are all doing inside and out. With each other and to ourselves. Losing our shit on ourselves or on others deserving or not.
I feel like he was also showing the world how fragile and absolutely done we are with humanity treating each other so badly. Take away the joke vs. the slap. Think about it as two humans coming at a situation from two different places and neither understands what the other is feeling nor are they willing to hear one another. One thinks it’s no big deal and one it has caused so much pain and they just want that piece understood. Due to bad communication and lack of compassion the slap comes next. Now a feud that goes on and on and on and on.

It has nothing to do with the two of them, they were just the picture to get our attention. Humanity just keeps walking up to each other and slapping them and then sitting down and collecting an award later for being good at something else. Some of us are doing this to ourselves all day long as well.

Its time for a new way. Its time to learn to manage and control that mindset. Its time to learn to be kind again. Start with yourself. Be a good friend to yourself. Explain your hurt feelings and being misunderstood the people who are willing to listen. The ones that are not take some space. Its ok to choose to be around people who are good for you versus the ones that are assholes. I have a no asshole rule. If you’re an asshole you don’t belong in my world. Period.

Stop slapping yourself and others.

FUN fixes everything

FUN fixes everything

Hey Friends-
I keep hearing myself say this phrase to my peeps. Fun fixes everything.

I live in the Midwest and we are hard workers and often are called North Dakota or MN nice. We tend to put everyone elses needs first and our needs, wants or desires come in last. We pride ourselves on the sacrifice we have made for those around us. Ridiculous to sacrifice your health and well being even financially for others before you take care of yourself but I have done it a million times! Its a rough road to turn off of if your used to your value being measured by your sacrifices.

This last weekend we went to the lake. One of the first we left our children at home because they are at an age that we can do that plus we have pretty damn great kids. They did great I was so excited. We felt a bit off not having them with us but I knew it was important for all of us for this next step with kids growing up and becoming independent.

Lets go have some fun I told my hubby. Boat ride, fishing, fish fry with the neighbors and just a relaxing weekend all on our own. It was wonderful. A little fun goes a long way. FUN FILLS YOU UP! FUN helps you have enough energy to work through the things that dont really light us up. FUN is the fuel that our body,mind and spirit needs to feed off of each day.

If its been a long time since you have had some fun I promise that is a reason you may be feeling tired,un-motivated,bored,crabby and a whole host of other things that are not great feeling. GO HAVE SOME FUN.

Its ok if you don’t know what is fun anymore. That can be a great opportunity to learn what makes you tick NOW in your life. I have had to recreate and learn new things that are fun now compared to my fun in my 20’s. That’s part of the game my friends.

Go fill your bucket and watch how things around you start to move. If your stuck go have some fun. If your pissed off go have some fun. If your tired go have some fun. If your unsure or anxious go have some fun. FUN is the fuel my friends.

Don’t forget to make some magic as well!

The Fearless Spirit Workshop

The Fearless Spirit Workshop

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Jodie Harvala